Be gone with your procrastination!!

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Blog by Lisa Conroy – Box of Chocolates

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn't come from having too much to do; it comes from not finishing what they started.” David Allen

We all know there are things that we want to do or should do, yet we still end up spending hours doing other distracting things such as, picking up a book, browsing the Internet or watching TV because it’s easier or we just can’t be bothered! 

There’s nothing wrong with escaping from time to time and indulging in some fun distraction, but if you’re getting sick of sitting on the fence with a task or goal that needs addressing, you may need some motivational tips.

Some people thrive on last minute pressure for deadlines, but most prefer to plan ahead and not put the added stress on yourself.

It’s important to ask yourself, “Do I really want this?” and if you do – then why, what is my motivation to complete this task, what are the benefits and how good will I feel when I've achieved it?  If it’s not that important to you, it may be wise to revise your priorities.  If it’s something you have little choice about – such as a work task that has to be done, then you will need a change of mind-set and realise that you’re only delaying the inevitable by procrastinating.  

When you nip procrastination in the bud, you stop the vicious cycle happening on your psyche which is not good for your self-esteem, and then you’re ready to flick the mind-set to a positive spin and take action.

Here are a few helpful tips to get you from A-Z in no time…

Stop thinking and start doing something
It’s great to plan ahead and take some time to work out all the steps or resources you may need to achieve your goal.  However, over thinking and analysing things can cause delays and anxiety instead of action, and can have the opposite effect.  If you keep in the safe zone for fear of failure, then you'll never know what success is.  We all learn by making mistakes and this will provide personal growth and development along the way, as well as mastering some time management skills.  Life is not easy and you will fall down from time to time, but next time you will learn from this and it becomes easier. 

Keep things in proportion 
It’s easy to make mountains out of molehills when we put off the tasks we need to get done.  The longer you put things off, the worse things get in your head and before you know it, you've blown things way out of proportion.  What you put your mind to grows, so by dwelling on the tasks you are manifesting the worst-case scenarios to an unhealthy perspective.  It can eat away at you, so you can’t really relax and focus on other things, causing you to lose sleep or feel negative. When you tackle things head on they are rarely as bad as they seemed and you start to build momentum quickly.

Tackle the hardest task first each day and the rest will fall into place
How you start your day can influence the rest of how your day pans out, with a positive attitude you get things done, you are far more likely to move forward.  By tackling the hardest task first, you break down the barriers and you feel like you've really achieved something.  Whether it’s making that important phone call, starting an assignment, applying for a new job, giving some news to someone – they all require action to take effect, so create the time to tick it off and you'll feel much better than putting it off.  You will then feel relaxed and good about yourself and ready to tackle some of the less important things on your list, while keeping the momentum going.  Everything else feels lighter and your day will run much smoother.

Take that first step
As Martin Luther King Junior said, “you don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step”.

By focusing too far ahead on the future, any task or project can seem almost impossible.  You can get overwhelmed by all the logistics and start to shut down into inaction.  This is when planning is useful, and relating it to the here and now will make it real for you and trigger baby steps.

Take that first step today, focus on this and nothing else, create a time and place where you will not be distracted and put up resistance.  You can then allow yourself space to feel in a good frame of mind, positive about taking that first step and the next one until achieved.  Quite often you can’t see the entire staircase anyway and what you thought was a reality, changes along the way!  Through these obstacles you discover your own wave of creativity and ingenuity to get things done, which will boost your confidence and chance of success.

Any decision is better than none at all
Once you start procrastinating you start to feel edgy and off balance, we naturally want to take action so it goes against your values when you fight it.  Conflicting thoughts can cause you to feel anxious and this is when it’s easier to forget it and do something else.  Before that negative cycle kicks in again, nip it in the bud by using strong affirmations and do something about it.  When you procrastinate you lower your self-esteem which then signals back to you, that you are disorganised and indecisive instead of feeling confident and in control. Why would you want to feel like that, so make the decision to go in a positive direction and start somewhere…anywhere, you don’t know until you try!

Face the fear and do it anyway
The fear of success can be really debilitating, success can bear a heavy weight on your mind knowing that if you achieve what you set out to do, you have to keep up the good work.  It carries a responsibility and can be easier to just put things off a bit longer. 

It’s harder to take action and risk looking like a fool and make mistakes, but you will win admiration for at least giving it a go and tackling your fears regardless of the outcome.  Do you want to live a life of regret, to look back and wonder “what if” years later?   We are responsible for our own lives and the direction we take, so why not make it an exciting one and take a gamble now and again – it could end up being a thrilling ride where you find new opportunities that you never thought possible.

Finish the job at hand
When you start something and don’t finish it, it leaves a heavy energy that can weigh you down.  You start to feel fatigued and stressed and before you know it you've gone off on another tangent again.

If this is the case, review what you have on, what can give in order to prioritise a certain task.  Be honest with yourself in the time needed to finish the job, if you need to let others know of your commitments, share this information.  Could you delegate some of the tasks or put off for another day/week so that the most important task is completed to the standard you expect?  You will feel amazing for making the effort, and each time you get more proficient and organised at sorting out your priorities.  We live in a multi-tasking world but this isn't always the most effective use of your time or energy, try sticking to one task and completing that before moving onto the next, you'll feel back in control and will be more focused.

What are you waiting for, go get started on those ideas that have been mulling around or goals you want to achieve, and enjoy the process knowing you’re working towards a life you deserve?

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Malcolm Wilson - My awakening...

It's the 18th October 2014 and I have it all. The big house, the high-flying career, the car, the kids, the ocean view….

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I'm also pinned against the back wall of the second storey of my elevated 5 bedroom home in Eastbourne. The anxiety tears through me and all I can think of is "jump, jump, jump." I don't want to jump but I know it's a matter of time before I do and it's a very long drop from the second storey deck. I'm confronted with an absolute. Change my life or die.

I choose change. And within less than 12 hours the perfect life I have painstakingly constructed is over.

In retrospect, I should have seen it coming. I'd been suppressing my spiritual side for 16 years, and running from my childhood for much longer. I didn't want to know. I just wanted to fill the hole.

But facts are facts, and the facts were these. I'd been taken under the wing of my Grandmother for the first six years of my life and taught to cherish nature. I'd watch her go into trances and speak in what I now know is light language. People would contact her for physical healings. I would hear from others of her casual miracles. She would break into sudden conversations with passed ones or beings. My reading requirements from her were ancient mythologies and esoteric teachings. She taught me constantly, and at her funeral, I promised to continue her work and the work of our ancestors.

We don't get to break promises like that.

I barely remember the next 6 months after I chose change. I know I gridded my corner office with crystals and surprisingly didn't lose my job. I scared people by knowing things and could feel everybody's emotions. By the time I ended up in a realm to a to meet the holder of my Akashics, I felt like a power circuit plugged into the universe. The ultimate confirmation came when I slammed back into my body with such physical force that I needed seven weeks of osteopathy, and with such energetic force that all of the lightbulbs exploded around me. I didn't even know what Akashics were but I couldn't mistake the broken glass.

I finally asked for help and it came. A huge voice, I would later identify as Metatron, started giving me directions. I followed them, and the right people appeared. I literally owe the people at the beginning of this journey my life.

The first person ran a workshop in Lower Hutt. It was there where I found people who experienced similar things. It felt like home and I forged connections which still exist to this day including my my current partner and one of my best friends.

The second person had been my friend for years. She held space while I astral travelled, cleared cemeteries, and cried buckets. She was in the room when we cleared a poltergeist. She believed in me when I didn't believe my eyes.

The third was a homeopath who gave me a remedy. The next day a Transition Angel appeared and took me up the tunnel to the other side. It's face was electricity, it's name ancient and unpronounceable. I connected to everything and saw the maps of the stars, the earth,and multiple dimensions all as one gigantic equation. I sensed a room full of council members that I now am allowed to visit, but at the time was obscured from me. In this moment, my fear of death collapsed. I knew beyond all earth knowledge there was more than just this life.

I spent days drawing what I saw and eventually just asked for peace. I remember the Angel coming back and passing out. I remember pinpoint headaches and sparks of light in my physical brain for the next two weeks. I drew a map of the pinpricks and was astonished to find a picture of Metatron's cube online and to find the picture of my rewiring pattern matched it exactly.

The final stage of my Awakening was when Metatron's voice directed me to Pinnacle Books. There I met two people and picked up the book that would change my life. It was 10th March, 2015 at 1:36PM and the first woman had appeared to me in London as a vision many years earlier. Her name was identical to the vision, as were her looks. The second woman was behind the counter. The book had, ironically, been recommended to me by my now ex-wife 20 years earlier. It was a book of hypnotherapeutic case studies about the afterlife "Journey of Souls" by Dr. Michael Newton, and I read it in one sitting. I had spent six months in darkness and suddenly the lights were back on.

From here, everything took off. I flew backward and forward to Melbourne for a year to study hypnotherapy, choosing a school created by the President of The Newton Institute. The school was professional, ethical, academic, experiential, and really hard work, and I still had a day job and childcare arrangements to navigate. Meanwhile, people poured into my life and my spiritual experiences went stratospheric. I learned how to astral travel, heal people remotely, and became increasingly telepathic, clairvoyant, clairaudient, clairsentient, claircognizant, able to channel source and others, and able to leave my body and travel to multiple realms at will. I still felt everything from everybody but somehow knew what was mine and what wasn't. I faced my shadow again and again until it was integrated. I released trauma upon trauma and eventually qualified so I could help others do the same.

This is my purpose now. To help people awaken, activate, navigate, heal, remove blocks, live their life purpose, and step into their power.

And perhaps that's all there has ever been to my awakening journey. I went through everything so I could be of service to others. My goal these days is to simply help others navigate their awakenings and traumas so that they may live their highest potential on this earth. I do that as a Hypnotherapist, at The Awakening Circles, and through other events that The Voice tells me to run.

On the surface, not much has changed. I'm a family man, with a partner, and a house in the suburbs with an ocean view. I have bills to pay and mouths to feed so I charge for my services even though they're often mystical. I believe in helping people achieve tangible results and I give my all to that as a Hypnotherapist. I have multiple projects on the go like I always have, and somewhere in there I'm a Dad to the kids and have even maintained a friendship with my ex-wife.

However, I now listen to the voice that guides me and accept my spiritual and mystical side without question. I've learned to accept that the uniqueness of my gifts is that different abilities come and go depending on what my clients and I are facing together. I really like that because it's impossible to get to up in your ego about your gifts when they keep swapping themselves around for the benefit of others ;)

Most importantly, I'm at peace and the journey has been worth it. Perhaps that's the one message I hope to offer here to anybody who is having the kind of awakening I did.

It's worth it.

Malcolm Wilson
Clinical Hypnotherapist